The past few days had been the most difficult days of my entire life.
My mom had been admitted to the hospital due to mental illness. It’s extremely excruciating to watch someone you love so dearly to go through so much, and yet you are so helpless. Thanks to all the medical attention, my mom is doing okay now.
The past few days had certainly been a whirlwind, but at the same I have gained quite a few new perspectives inspired by all the medical professionals who took care of my mom, and I’d like to share with you all.
Hospitals and the medical professions are like another language or planet to me. I work in finance, and wall-street talks and charts are my language.
During the past few days, I had a fair amount of interactions with the sitters (my mom needed 24/7 monitoring), nurses, techs, paramedics, and of course doctors.
In addition to the interactions we’ve had on all things medial-related, I had some downtime to learn about their stories and most importantly their passions.
Kaitlin the Paramedic
My mom and I spent the first night at the ER, and we had a paramedic named Kaitlin as our sitter. I have never stayed at an ER for that long, and it was eye-opening to see all the actions. I joked that I would probably faint if I saw someone very bloody came in, and they would have to take care of me. Thankfully this ER doesn’t treat severe traumas.
Kaitlin talked about how she lives for the adrenaline, and would love to be at the front line with the fire department one day. She’s going through all the necessary training while it’s beneficial for her to learn how inside the ER works. So she could understand the job from both sides rather than just keeping the patients alive and dropping them off at the ER.
I could totally see the passion and fire in her eyes.
The two older Sitters
We were transferred to in-patient after the ER and had professional sitters from there on. The sitters stayed with my mom 24/7 to keep an eye on her and had to deal with patient’s irrational behaviors almost daily. I was simply amazed by their patience and professionalism. Especially the two older sitters, who had been doing this for decades.
“How do you have so much patience to deal with crazy and irrational behaviors and yet be completely calm, patient, and professional?” I asked, thinking she must be a saint.
“Well, it really comes down to the passion I have for people. There’s no way you would last at this job without the passion. Plus, I know I will end up like this one day, so I would hope that someone would treat me like I treat them when that day arrives.”
Two sitters replied with almost the same exact answer.
The Question Sarah the Nurse asked
Nurses on the other end, were quite busy running from one room to another. Still, I had a fair amount of interactions with them. Particularly this nice nurse Sarah where we chatted about her passion for her job and taking care of patients. Interestingly, she asked me how is mental health in general in my culture, and whether or not people pay attention to them.
As I wrote in my post about the Asian education system, I believe the Asian obsession of getting the best grades and highest-paying jobs, plays a huge role in the Asian society. I told Sarah that when children are forced to study so hard to get good grades so they can eventually work hard to make a lot of money, there are tremendous pressure that’s being put on you and the society as a whole. Which is not necessarily healthy, especially mental health, which I don’t think was ever talked about the entire 20 years of my life spent in Asia.
The Asian Mentality
The conversations I had with these medical professionals actually led me to think a little deeper. As I told Kaitlin, no wonder it’s a stereotype that Asian parents push their kids to be doctors and lawyers. The Asian cultures tend to put an over-emphasis on money and getting ahead than anything else. On the contrary, the west tend to encourage people to pursue their passions like these medical professionals I talked to.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that compensation is also very important. But I believe that there should a balance between pay and passion. Not everyone can achieve loving what they do and be happy with their pay the same time obviously. But when people are being pushed to do what they don’t love and working only for the money, a disconnect would happen. They wouldn’t necessarily be happy and the quality of their work may also be reflected by their lack of passion.
Passion, Dedication, and Professionalism
These medical professionals really inspired me by their passions and professionalism. As I reflect this on myself, I am perhaps ashamed of myself. Maybe I am still exploring, but it’s a shame that I don’t have that level of passion on my 9 to 5 as these medical professionals I came across with.
Currently I am using the blog Mao & Then and my videos as a way to figure out the next chapter of my life while transitioning out of my 9 to 5. So far for the past couple of months, I really have been enjoying blogging and vlogging. Maybe it’s only a hobby for now, but who knows where it could lead?
One thing for sure that I learned from these medical professionals in addition to the passion is dedication. They are giving everything they’ve got to help the patients and they are thriving on being the best they can be.
The past few months as I started my blogging and vlogging journey, I realized how much work you have to put in to create good contents. How much research and dedication you need to be consistently putting out new articles and videos. I am not even making money on my blog or videos, however, I am having a hell lot of fun doing it. All of this can not continue without dedication and the love for doing it.
That being said, I will continue to write blog posts and create videos with dedication and passion for as long as I am making them.
I refuse to do something simply just because and without the love for it. In the meantime, I will give it my best at my 9 to 5 until I eventually transitioned out. That’s the professionalism and dedication that those medical professionals I encountered taught me.
Shout out to all you creators out there!
Furthermore, I want to give a shout out to all the bloggers, vloggers and online communities for all they do. I have gained so much more respect for them over the past couple of months. It takes a tremendous amount of efforts, passions, and consistencies to continuously create awesome contents.
Most importantly, I believe this unique community of online creators are making a wave challenging tradition media and common believes. We are adding a lot of value to the world especially unconventional wisdom and knowledge.
Lastly, thank you for all the readers, friends and family, bloggers and vloggers I have collaborated with. You know who you are. I definitely won’t be able to do this without all of your support. So thank you again, or xie xie in Chinese!
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P.S. Extreme shout out to my beautiful girlfriend Sara, this blog wouldn’t have been possible without your support and critiquing over my ESL writing 😀